A plumber dreamed that he encountered an enormous spider in
a crawl space. He was trying to destroy it, but decided to reason with it
instead. That’s when it turned into a teddy bear. His dream had images of fear
and panic. Much of the story had to do with understanding that he simply couldn’t
fight it, and that he had to figure out some other solution in order to insure
his own safety and comfort.
What dreams are
about
Dreams are multi-faceted. They can be seen on so many
levels. When dreams are worked with in therapy, many therapeutic approaches don’t
even deal with symbols at all. They deal with emotional content, or they
attempt to facilitate an interaction between the dreamer and the dream.
I recently finished reading a book which offered synopses of
over a dozen professional, therapeutic approaches to dream work. What was interesting
was that, despite a wide range of approaches, all the techniques had validity
and were successful. And although some of them avoided working with symbols, every
single one of them acknowledged the fact that dreams communicate in the
language of metaphor. Further, every one of the practitioners interviewed
insisted that the only person who can really explain the meaning of a dream’s
metaphor is the dreamer!
Our dreamer
explains his dream
So it is time to give our own dreamer his voice, and ask him
if the metaphors that he was able to associate with his dream have a particular
meaning for him. What follows is his own analysis:
I gotta start by
saying that this whole process has been amazing to me. I almost can’t believe we
ended up talking about facing some fears when the dream was so weird and was
about spiders and toys. But, yeah, it makes perfect sense to me.
You asked me what the
biggest issue on my mind is these days, and I think it’s about my retirement. I’m
getting older, and I don’t like it. It’s like everything that I think of as
being a useful person is about to end. You know, they’re going to “put me out
to pasture.” The odd thing is that I don’t think I’m going to mind not having
to work in all of these inconvenient places and torturing myself into
uncomfortable positions, but like I said, it bugs me that I’m not going to be
contributing something helpful. You know what I mean?
But the dream’s right:
I can’t fight it, and I can’t run away from it. So the only thing left to do is
to try and work with my own uncomfortable feelings. And maybe the dream is
right again, that if I do work with my worries, they’ll shrink from a monstrous
spider into a teddy bear. [He laughs.]
I asked him if he had any hobbies or interests. He said he
loved his children—now grown—and loved to fly model planes. Maybe he could mentor
kids, teaching them to make model planes, I suggested.
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