Dreams are fascinating, and it is easy to lose sight of the big
picture by focusing on some intriguing aspect. But every once in a while we
should return to basics to remind ourselves of how dreams work and how to deal
with them. We’ll do that this week using a dream about someone falling in the
water. This was a dream told recently in a dream class. The dreamer is male.
The dream
My brother and I had
to cross a river which we were supposed to do by using a boat ferry. But the
boat was narrow and unstable; it looked kind of like a kayak. My brother
stepped onto the front of the boat, and immediately the boat moved away, with him
on it. There were no oars, but somehow, he managed to maneuver the boat to the
opposite bank where there were a bunch of brooms lying on the ground. He
grabbed one and I thought he was going to use it like an oar, but he just kept
waving it in the air—kind of joking. The next thing I knew, he had fallen in
the water—first up to his waist, and then up to his shoulders. He was still
hanging onto the boat. I remember thinking that, if we finally got to the other
bank, he would have to spend the whole day in his drenched clothes.
How should we
understand this dream?
This dream tells a story that is largely coherent. It is
also plausible—although not too likely. But many dreams have plots that are so
bizarre that they are implausible, or even impossible.
Whether a dream scene is likely or not, it is advisable for the dreamer to divorce
him/herself from taking it literally. In our case: No, this is not a prophetic
dream about the dreamer’s brother falling in the water!
Very often, dreams have an emotional impact on the dreamer,
and it can be difficult to distance oneself from this sense of being startled or
upset. But that is the first requirement of successfully looking at a dream. Dreams
have startling qualities in order to help us remember them. As we awaken in the
morning, there are several stages of awareness that we have to go through as we
move from our subconscious to our conscious minds. Dreams use shock value to
help us keep our dreams in our awareness; that’s how they make their presence
known to us. But in the vast majority of dreams, the message of the dream has
little or nothing to do with its alarming quality.
Once we get over the unsettling nature of the dream, the
next step is to choose the words of the dream that are its most important
symbols. I tell dreamers to pretend that they are stenographers taking
shorthand. As they listen to a dream being told, they take notes and write down
the most important words. Those words are the dream symbols.
More about dream-shorthand on Wednesday…
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