My
reply to Ron. (Scroll down to my last post to read how the conversation began.)
Dear Ron,
Thank
you so much for trusting me with your pain and your loss. I am sorry for your
devastating experience; I will do my best to address your issues.
Yes,
the “buck stops with you” for the thoughts you expressed to your female
coworker. It can be a bit complicated, so let me explain: Let’s say the
thoughts didn’t originate with you, but came from some devilish prankster off
in the ethers somewhere. Think of the size of the universe and then imagine how
many of those annoying, meddling entities there are: trillions of them.
As
humans just trying to get through life, we are constantly shielding ourselves
from stuff like that. It’s a continual bombardment—a little bit like all the
radio, TV and cyber messages that are agitating the airwaves at any given
moment. We subconsciously block them out and go about our business.
So, did
the three thoughts come from somewhere else? It’s conceivable. But why did
these three make it into your conscious mind when a trillion others did not?
It’s because you let the thoughts in.
Why
would you be aware of and then express thoughts like that, subverting your own
work experience? The answer is that, somewhere in your subconscious you are
ready for a change. And the fact that you wrote to someone like me rather than
contacting your local illicit drug dealer in an effort to anesthetize yourself,
says a lot about the kind of change you are setting yourself up for.
While
there are those who can live their entire lives with their careers as their
sole ego identification, anyone who is trying to grow will eventually find
identifying with a job spiritually limiting. The fact that this happened after 9
years of work is also significant. In relationships—especially marriages—they
talk about the “seven year itch.” But in many personal growth scenarios, nine
years is more typical when it comes to a need for change.
So you
have booted yourself away from something precious. That’s true—and painful. But
it is also true that, by giving up this one thing, you have gained access to
the entire world with its fantastic variety of offerings; you can evolve into
anyone or anything you like—and that’s nothing shy of exhilarating!
As you
work through your pain, quietly pay attention to the directions and prompts
life seems to be providing you. Where is this leading you? With every “death”
there is a rebirth. This upsetting experience is taking you somewhere, and it’s
going to be somewhere beautiful. The more you can detach from your hurt, the
more you can become aware of where life is leading you next.
I’m am
sending you lots of good thoughts from here, and please know that, if you’d
like to continue this discussion, I am happy to receive more emails from you.
With
love in spirit,
David
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